August 19, 2018
Remember….
That he’s selfish.
Saturday day, you worked a long 14 hour shift, you had called him to see how he was doing during a brief quiet moment. You told him you forgot to bring something to eat, and blisters were forming on your feet because you brought the wrong shoes to work. He didn’t offer to bring you any food or ask how you were doing. Instead he kept calling wanting you to dictate words for a friends birthday card that he was going to. That day was hectic, you were short staffed, run off your feet dealing with customers, staffing issues, and doing training. Saturday night you went to pick him up at 2am after working 14 hours because he was drunk and needed a ride. You didn’t get to bed until 4am because it took him a while to get out of the party house and into the car.
Sunday morning you woke up at 9am to work on your final essay for University. He woke up at 1pm and you told him you were working on your final essay downstairs. He asked if there was anything he could do. You thought he meant make you breakfast or look stuff up for you, but he meant ‘giving you some sexual healing.’ Not quite the thing you were wanting because you were so stressed about trying to finish this final essay and you had 10 pages left to write, the due date was that day.
He kept texting you and trying to talk to you via text from upstairs despite knowing you were trying to get your stuff done.
After an hour he told you he was hungry but didn’t come down to help make breakfast. Just waited for you to make it for him.
When he did come down for breakfast, instead of cleaning the table he announced loudly that “someone” should clean the table.
You politely asked Mya to please take her laptop off the table and wipe the table down.
Once she did that, he set the table, then stood behind you watching you make breakfast.
While eating breakfast, he mocked and interrupted Mya. He interrupted her as she was telling the story about the scary movie, Hereditary she just watched. He made fun of the way she kept describing it as ‘odd and weird.’ He kept repeating those words and interrupting her when she was trying to explain the show. She looked ashamed. He didn’t understand that she was trying to process her feelings about it and was trying to find the proper words, but that was the only thing she could think of to describe how she was feeling. I quickly jumped in to reassure her that lots of people who went to see the show said the exact same thing, that it was “very odd and weird.” I told her she was brave to go see it, because I was so scared to even watch the trailer. I encouraged her to go on and finish the story.
Breakfast didn’t end until 3:30pm. He cleaned up the table but didn’t put the food away. Just put the dishes in the sink and the food on the counter. You had to put the crepes in a bag and put things in the fridge.
You went upstairs to get ready for work and asked what he would do today. He just shrugged. You mention that if he had some time, the deck needed to be cleaned off so it could be ready to be pressure washed. There was seven things that needed to be moved like the BBQ, dog house and bikes. He looked at you and said, ‘no.’
You told him that it was too late to drive him to his truck that was parked at his friends house where you had picked him up at because you had to go into work early to handle some urgent staffing issues.
He said he needed your car so that if anything happened he had a way to get around.
You lent him you car, told him he could come see a late show, and come get you after work.
At the last minute as you’re scrambling to leave for work he asks the Mya and Luke if they want ice cream.
Now you had to wait for another 5min while the kids got their shoes on and got dressed.
You called him while you were at work requesting he pick up a bag of chips at Safeway which is beside your house and asked him to bring it in for staff since it was a gift for a staff that was leaving. This way he could just come in a bit early (8pm vs 9:50pm) for his movie. He was on fb watching videos. He flat out refused. He could have watched videos in the office with you. He had your car… it’s the little things that matter to you.
When you came home at 2am from work, the kitchen was still a mess from breakfast with even more dishes added to the sink.
Remember this. This is one of the reasons why you need to let him go.
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